By Michelle Nagy, M. Ed.
Ever since I was a little girl, I have memories of planning out my future. I knew I would graduate high school, go to college and then begin working or go on to grad school. Even more importantly though, I knew that I wanted to get married and have kids. It was all set up in my head, I would get engaged at 24, married at 25 and have my first child by 27. I figured I would then go on to have several more kids after that.
Well, curveball, I am now 28. No kids, not married and not engaged. My life looks entirely different than I thought it would. And to make things more difficult, it seems as if every other day I am seeing something new on social media about another friend or acquaintance getting engaged or pregnant. So what happens when our life doesn’t go down the plan that we had hoped for ourselves? For me, this has been a very up and down road. Having a family is the number one thing I want out of life. But at the same time, I am really happy with the life I’m living. I have great friends, I am beginning to settle in at my job post-graduate school, and I generally enjoy my day to day life. Yes, there are days, where I get down about the fact that I don’t have an exact path to my number one life goal, but unfortunately, there isn’t a magic wand for finding the person we are supposed to be with.
If you are struggling with the fact that life isn’t playing out according to plan, at Connection First Counseling we are here to help. Together we can talk through insecurities you may be feeling or areas where you feel held back in your life. Additionally, we can work through old wounds that may be making it difficult for you to put yourself out there. Whatever your story and your life plan look like, we are here to help you make strides toward your goal while also helping you embrace where you are today.